Marriages and their unfortunate dissolution are some of the most tumultuous emotional trials we as people will ever experience. A marriage from day one is arguably the greatest commitment we make in life. We pledge to love another individual until death. Whether they are sick, poor, distraught, etc., we pledge to be with that individual through all times, both good and bad. We do so in the presence of our families, friends and depending on your religious beliefs before God. When someone arrives at this stage in life when he/she has determined that they want to commit themselves to another person it generally comes after great thought and contemplation. It comes after months or years of dating where we determine that this other person is literally the only other human being on earth we choose to commit our life to. At this point divorce is the last thing on a person’s mind.
The unfortunate reality is that marriages fail and in modern times they fail at a significant rate. That word “fail” is one of the hardest things to reconcile when parties determine that their marriage needs to be dissolved. Over the years I’ve met with a number of clients who wanted to meet with a lawyer to evaluate their options but we both knew that they were nowhere close to being ready to file for divorce. This is completely fine because no person should pursue a divorce if they are not emotionally ready to dissolve their marriage. Divorce is a deeply personal decision that has lasting impact for arguably the rest of your life. If you have children it does not matter that you are divorcing your spouse because you cannot completely disconnect from them because you will always be parents of the same child or children. Your friends and family will likely pick sides, some favoring you and others favoring your spouse. The consequences are many and in some cases may be more significant than you anticipated.
That being said, you will know when it is time to pursue a divorce action. Even though many people are in a state of confusion or even denial most individuals always know when the time is right. When you reach the end of your road and you know that the marriage cannot be salvaged then it is time to file for divorce. Delaying the inevitable is not advisable. The stress that delaying the divorce process causes you, your children and your family and friends is considerable. Believe it or not you will find peace once you know that your case is moving forward and if you hire an experienced family lawyer like the ones at Schwam-Wilcox & Associates you will be able to navigate the process effectively and efficiently.
For more information regarding your Divorce case you can contact the law office of Schwam-Wilcox & Associates.
