Reduce the stress on your children
While changes in a family dynamic may be difficult for adults, most adults have superior coping skills to those of children. It can be a very difficult time for you and your spouse during a dissolution, so imagine how much more difficult it is for your child or children. YOU are making a decision to get divorced; your child is not asking to have one parent leave the home and only see both parents part of the time. A child does not want to hear all of the negative attributes about one or both of his/her parents from the other parent. This is where collaborative law can help. Think about the damage you are doing to your child. They love you both and while they may have a closer bond to one parent, that does not mean they do not want to spend time with both of their parents. They do not want to hear horrible things about their parents either. Why does a 5 year old need to know about infidelity? Why does a 10 year old have to witness her parents fighting over time-sharing? Children are better off after a dissolution, or resolution in a paternity action when parents show they get along. It is important to remember, in addition to Mom’s time and Dad’s time, there should also be “child’s time.” For example, why do they no longer get to have sleepovers with their friends. Is it because their parents are going through a dissolution? Think about your case from the perspective of your children, and you will likely make better decisions on its resolution. A fabulous way to achieve this type of non-hostile resolution is to contact Collaboratively trained attorneys. Participate in a collaborative divorce, it is a kinder, more gentle way to dissolve your marriage and not recreate the War of the Roses. This usually has long lasting emotional effects on your most precious gift in life, your children.
Contact Schwam-Wilcox & Associates today to learn more about a collaborative divorce.
